7 Signs Your Spouse Is Emotionally Cheating on You

Ashamed because of a cheating partner

People tend to believe or think cheating only involves being physically intimate with another person. In my study of romantic relationships and as a marriage counselor, infidelity has been discovered to occur without being physically involved with someone else, and this is called an emotional affair. Emotional infidelity is often underestimated, but it can cause just as much damage to a relationship as physical cheating. In this blog, we will discuss the 7 signs that your partner may be emotionally cheating on you and provide guidance on seeking help for your relationship.

1. Lack of emotional intimacy: Emotional cheating often stems from a lack of emotional connection. If your partner seems emotionally distant or no longer shares their thoughts and feelings with you, it could be a sign of emotional infidelity.

2. Increased secrecy: If your partner becomes secretive about their phone, social media accounts, or online activities, it may indicate that they are engaging in emotional conversations or relationships with someone else.

3. Constant comparisons: Emotional cheaters may constantly compare their partner to someone else, whether it’s a friend, colleague, or acquaintance. They may mention how this person understands them better or shares similar interests, creating emotional distance between you and your partner.

4. Prioritizing their time and attention: Emotional affairs often involve an increased amount of time and attention directed towards someone outside of the relationship. If your partner consistently prioritizes their time and energy towards another person, it could be a cause for concern.

5. A decrease in physical or sexual intimacy: Emotional cheating can lead to a decline in physical or sexual intimacy between partners. If your partner becomes disinterested or appears distant in intimate moments, it may be a sign of emotional infidelity.

6. Secrecy about conversations: An emotionally cheating partner may become defensive or secretive about their conversations with other people. They may hide their phones or close their screens when you approach, indicating a lack of transparency in their interactions.

7. Increased emotional investment in someone else: Emotional cheaters often develop a deep emotional connection with the person they are involved with. They may share personal details, seek advice, or confide in this person more than they do with you, causing a rupture in the emotional bond within your relationship.

If you notice any of these signs in your relationship, it’s crucial to address the issue openly and honestly with your partner. Communicate your concerns and feelings, expressing your desire to seek help together to rebuild trust and emotional connection.

Consider seeking professional assistance from a relationship counselor or therapist who specializes in infidelity. They can help both of you navigate the complex emotions involved and guide rebuilding trust and emotional intimacy.

Building open lines of communication and re-establishing emotional connection are essential steps toward healing a relationship damaged by emotional infidelity. Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a proactive approach toward resolving issues and restoring trust in your relationship.


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